Baby Boomers Leading the Charge to Online Dating

In 2007 I divorced. I began checking out different sites in 2008. Some of the sites I checked out were Seniorpeoplemeet.com, Plentyoffish.com, okcupid.com and Zoosk.com. My favorite site, and the one I kept going back to was Seniorpeoplemeet.com. 90% of the time it kept the younger people from playing games with you. Not always, but the majority of the time. I met at least 10-12 men on the site over a period of 4 years. I traveled to Arizona, Oregon and North Carolina to meet them, or visit. Never once did I fear for my life. My friends did, but I never felt threatened. During the getting to know each other time, you have plenty of time to figure out who they are. You can also get credentials if needed. I can't say I didn't get my heart broken a few times, but never felt threatened. My philosophy is that you can meet a man at the gym, a bar or church and still not know who he really is. You usually meet up with them quicker that way. During the" getting to know each other " you can be honest of who you are because they don't know who you are yet. You can share more about yourself. To this day, I am friends with several of the men I dated. But in 2012, I met the man of my dreams. We communicated for a month, sharing everything about ourselves in emails before speaking on the phone. We finally met a month later, and 4 years later, we are still together. He was married 34 years prior and I was married 31 years. I think meeting later in life, after the kids are grown and you have more time for yourselves, gives you a whole new perspective on life. Every minute counts. We discuss life more, we communicate more, we share our lives more. We both never knew happiness like this really existed. That it could be so complete.
Online dating gives you the opportunity to narrow down the field to people who have the same goals, dreams, passions, lifestyles, religious believes, likes, dislikes, looks, etc. Also, if you are from a rural area, which I was, there is such a larger field to cultivate from. The world is your pallet. And if nothing else, it is a great way to get have a friend online. Someone to talk to during lonely times, unpleasant times, to listen to you. I recommend it to everyone who is single. Life is too short to not have a companion to share your life with. Loneliness kills.

I just got married 01/04/16 after meeting my husband on EHARMONY almost 9 years ago. We had an instant connection because the computer had done such a great job on matching us based on values, likes and dislikes. EHARMONY is work as you must answer pages of questions before you are matched. Matches were not made just based on looks, but on the answers provided.

I had dates on Match and another site before trying EHARMONY, and I can say the men I was asked out by generally either barely or never read what I wrote. EHARMONY probably has a higher percentage of folks looking for a real relationship, as opposed to just getting lucky.

Don't dismiss it before investigating it. You might just meet the love of your life. I did

DH and I were both widowed in 2003, while we were both still in our 40's. We met on a dating site for adults of the Catholic faith, therefore already having a lot in common. I don't know if other faiths have specific sites, yet there may be other sites where singles can meet regarding most topics of commonality. We've been married for 9 years already! He is logical and real sensible. We are both very thankful and feel especially blessed about this second chance.

I'm glad to see that many people have been successful on dating sites. Unfortunately not so much for me. I tried plenty of fish, eharmony and match. I met several men but no second dates. I was very honest about being a little overweight but that did not stop inquiries or meetings. Not sure if it's me, my location or what.

I work with a man who was widowed several years ago, who has spent a lot of time on dating sites. In fact, he pulled out a huge binder of info that he uses to keep track of women he's communicated with and met, with their profiles, notes of his communications with them and comments. (To be fair, he really is looking for another partner.) I thought his insights were interesting. I noticed all of the "five star" women in his binder looked a lot alike...and like his spouse. He claimed he hadn't noticed that! He said that most of the profiles say the same thing. Everyone likes to laugh, take walks, etc. If someone says they like to hike, he said that he'd propose they pick a place to hike together. If they stumble on where to go, he concludes they're faking it. His red flags are women who were bitter about ex husbands, the ones who are looking for someone to support or save them financially, and the "Moms" who immediately start telling him to change his life, his health care, his dietary habits, his clothes, etc.

I checked out some sites at my kids' encouragement. My profle is almost nonexistent (and says I'm just looking at the site). I haven't upload a picture. I get lots of "matches" in my junk mail now, to induce me to buy a membership plan. It's very interesting!

In 2008 I met my future wife on chemistry.com. We emailed and exchanged phone calls for about one month before meeting at a restaurant for the first time. We dated for three years, were married in 2011, and couldn't be happier.
Dating "the old fashioned way" wasn't working for me, so I stepped out of my comfort zone and gave online dating a try. I recommend only responding to profiles with a picture, be very honest about yourself and what you are looking for, have first meetings in public places, and make sure someone knows where you are going and who you are meeting. But most of all, have fun.

I am a very young 77 and have been a widower for 6 years. I live in Queens, NY. I have belonged to various web sites I.e. Match.com, OurTime, JDate, Plenty of Fish, Zoosk, OKCupid and Over 70. In that time I have had 3 relationships ranging in time from 6 moths to 2 1/2 years. I have sent and received about the same amount of responses from all sites. I received less responses on Match but more there were positive. I find that most women post pictures of themselves that are at least 3 years old (even though I specify they need a current picture. Many of the woman lie about their age. I also find that a lot of the women don't really bother to read my profile where I say I have 2 cats so they shouldn't respond if they are allergic. I spent 1/2 an hour on the phone with someone yesterday only fo find out that she is allergic. I am turned off by the women who say a man must have a high income to get their interest. First of all I can put down anything and they would never know, second I am not looking to be anyone's sugar daddy. Unfortunately there aren't any viable venues for a man my age to meet a women. My advice is if you are new to dating sites join as many as you can afford then start to eliminate them based on results. You will find that many of your parameters (distance, race, etc,) are ignored by the sites and they recommend women that live too far away from me. In 6 years I have only met 1 woman that I fell in love with (that happened the first week I joined a site. Most of all be patient and stick to the requirements that you want in a partner.